There are many reasons why your life is the way it is now – and nearly all of them begin with you. The first day you realise that you’ve been responsible for your choices – including your choices after major, life changing events – is the day you begin to live the life you really want.
The second day is when you know where you want to get to, but you’re grateful for exactly what you have now.
Richard Carlson says:
Each time you notice yourself falling into the “I wish life were different” trap, back off and start over. Take a breath and remember all that you have to be grateful for. When you focus not on what you want, but on what you have, you end up getting more of what you want anyway. If you focus on the good qualities of your spouse, she’ll be more loving. If you are grateful for your job rather than complaining about it, you’ll do a better job, be more productive, and probably end up getting a raise anyway. If you focus on ways to enjoy yourself around home rather than than waiting to enjoy yourself in Hawaii, you’ll end up having more fun. If you ever do get to Hawaii, you’ll be in the habit of enjoying yourself. And, if by some chance you don’t, you’ll have a great life anyway.
Have you known darkness? I have. Dark, sticky, no hope darkness, the kind that makes you want to end the pain, the kind that pulls you down into places where you feel no pain. And I've known the darkness of days and nights filled with anxiety and worry. But I've learned how to stay well, and I try to be a light for others. I love this.. "We are not saints; we are not heroes. Our lives are lived in the quiet corners of the ordinary. We build tiny hearth fires, sometimes barely strong enough to give off warmth. But to the person lost in the darkness, our tiny flame may be the road to safety, the path to salvation. It is not given to us to know who is lost in the darkness that surrounds us or even if our light is seen. We can only know that against even the smallest of lights, darkness cannot stand. A sailor lost at sea can be guided home by a single candle. A person lost in a wood can be led to safety by a flickering flame. It is not an issue of quality or intensity or purity. It is simply an issue of the presence of light." Kent Nerburn