Are you repeatedly miserable?

Are you miserable?
Are you repeatedly miserable?
Or angry, or filled with sadness or hate because others have wronged you?
If all we do is get angry when someone wrongs us, if we fail to set and maintain our boundaries or speak our truth, allow people to keep hurting us so we are like a punch bag that gets knocked down, only to bounce back to get more of the same – then it’s time to change.
Eventually our anger will turn outwards to rage, or inwards to depression, we will react violently (even if that’s emotional rather than physical) to the overstepping of our boundaries – or that punch bag will get damaged or burst, .
Know what presses your buttons and then DO something to change things. Even a little step matters.  And if you are struggling to do that yourself – isn’t it time to invest in a coach to support you?

Do you wish life could be different?

There are many reasons why your life is the way it is now – and nearly all of them begin with you.  The first day you realise that you’ve been responsible for your choices – including your choices after major, life changing events – is the day you begin to live the life you really want.

The second day is when you know where you want to get to, but you’re grateful for exactly what you have now.

Richard Carlson says:

Each time you notice yourself falling into the “I wish life were different” trap, back off and start over.  Take a breath and remember all that you have to be grateful for.  When you focus not on what you want, but on what you have, you end up getting more of what you want anyway.  If you focus on the good qualities of your spouse, she’ll be more loving.  If you are grateful for your job rather than complaining about it, you’ll do a better job, be more productive, and probably end up getting a raise anyway.  If you focus on ways to enjoy yourself around home rather than than waiting to enjoy yourself in Hawaii, you’ll end up having more fun.  If you ever do get to Hawaii, you’ll be in the habit of enjoying yourself.  And, if by some chance you don’t, you’ll have a great life anyway.

On World Mental Health Day – To the person lost in darkness, our tiny flame may be the road to safety

Have you known darkness? I have.  Dark, sticky, no hope darkness, the kind that makes you want to end the pain, the kind that pulls you down into places where you feel no pain.  And I've known the darkness of days and nights filled with anxiety and worry.  But I've learned how to stay well, and I try to be a light for others.  I love this..

 

 


"We are not saints; we are not heroes. Our lives are lived in the quiet corners of the ordinary. We build tiny hearth fires, sometimes barely strong enough to give off warmth. But to the person lost in the darkness, our tiny flame may be the road to safety, the path to salvation.

 


It is not given to us to know who is lost in the darkness that surrounds us or even if our light is seen. We can only know that against even the smallest of lights, darkness cannot stand. A sailor lost at sea can be guided home by a single candle. A person lost in a wood can be led to safety by a flickering flame. It is not an issue of quality or intensity or purity. It is simply an issue of the presence of light." Kent Nerburn

Find your niche and then do it. Just do it.

Stop with your excuses. Who are you to hide your light and why are you not worthy of doing it YOUR way (to paraphrase Marianne Williamson!)?

Who are you to not just follow your heart and do it YOUR way?

What difference does qualfications make to your ability to change lives?

Focus on what you want
Believe in your ability to do it. Qualifications don’t equal results
Do it your way
Follow your heart

And let the Universe open doors for you as step by step, you keep walking YOUR path. Find your niche and then do it. Just do it.

 

The Power Of One by Ashish Ram

One song can spark a moment,
One flower can wake the dream.
One tree can start a forest,
One bird can herald spring.

One smile begins a friendship,
One handclasp lifts a soul.
One star can guide a ship at sea,
One word can frame the goal.

One vote can change a nation,
One sunbeam lights a room.
One candle wipes out darkness,
One laugh will conquer gloom.

One step must start each journey,
One word must start each prayer.
One hope will raise our spirits,
One touch can show you care.

One voice can speak with wisdom,
One heart can know what’s true.
One life can make the difference,
You see, IT’S UP TO YOU!

By Ashish Ram

 

Native American Code of Ethics: A great way to live

1. Rise with the sun to pray. Pray alone. Pray often. The Great Spirit will listen, if you only speak.

2. Be tolerant of those who are lost on their path. Ignorance, conceit, anger, jealousy and greed stem from a lost soul. Pray that they will find guidance.

3. Search for yourself, by yourself. Do not allow others to make your path for you. It is your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.

4. Treat the guests in your home with much consideration. Serve them the best food, give them the best bed and treat them with respect and honor.

5. Do not take what is not yours whether from a person, a community, the wilderness or from a culture. It was not earned nor given. It is not yours.

6. Respect all things that are placed upon this earth – whether it be people or plant.

7. Honor other people’s thoughts, wishes and words. Never interrupt another or mock or rudely mimic them. Allow each person the right to personal expression.

8. Never speak of others in a bad way. The negative energy that you put out into the universe will multiply when it returns to you.

9. All persons make mistakes. And all mistakes can be forgiven.

10. Bad thoughts cause illness of the mind, body and spirit. Practice optimism.

11. Nature is not FOR us, it is a PART of us. They are part of your worldly family.

12. Children are the seeds of our future. Plant love in their hearts and water them with wisdom and life’s lessons. When they are grown, give them space to grow.

13. Avoid hurting the hearts of others. The poison of your pain will return to you.

14. Be truthful at all times. Honesty is the test of ones will within this universe.

15. Keep yourself balanced. Your Mental self, Spiritual self, Emotional self, and Physical self – all need to be strong, pure and healthy. Work out the body to strengthen the mind. Grow rich in spirit to cure emotional ails.

16. Make conscious decisions as to who you will be and how you will react. Be responsible for your own actions.

17. Respect the privacy and personal space of others. Do not touch the personal property of others – especially sacred and religious objects. This is forbidden.

18. Be true to yourself first. You cannot nurture and help others if you cannot nurture and help yourself first.

19. Respect others religious beliefs. Do not force your belief on others.

20. Share your good fortune with others. Participate in charity.

First published in the “Inter-Tribal Times,” (October1994)