I turn my hand around
© Caroline Johnstone 2017
So says Richard Carlson, who reminds us that:
“Each time you notice yourself falling into the “I wish life were different” trap, back off and start over. Take a breath and remember all that you have to be grateful for.
When you focus not on what you want, but on what you have, you end up getting more of what you want anyway. If you focus on the good qualities of your spouse, she’ll be more loving.
If you are grateful for your job rather than complaining about it, you’ll do a better job, be more productive, and probably end up getting a raise anyway. If you focus on ways to enjoy yourself around home rather than than waiting to enjoy yourself in Hawaii, you’ll end up having more fun. If you ever do get to Hawaii, you’ll be in the habit of enjoying yourself. And, if by some chance you don’t, you’ll have a great life anyway.”
If there is one gift I would grant a child, assuming love is already there, then it would be curiousity. That courage to explore new places, meet new people with an openness that builds better relationships and turns strangers into friends.
It will change their thinking and their ability to learn. It’s the gift that will encourage them to have ideas and invent things that change the world for the better, to travel to other places and cultures with respect, and even explore other galaxies. It will keep rocking them back in wonder at creation and the world around them, so that even when adults, they will stop and stare at a rose, whirl a dandelion head round to see what happens, or crunch through autumn leaves.
It’s what will allow them to wait to see the butterfly emerging from a cocoon, an egg hatching, what shape the bread that rested and was kneaded makes. It means they can never be bored, for they can stimulate their imagination and get lost in different worlds of books and games.
It will give them the courage to take risks sometimes, to ask “what might happen if I try” – and find out that even if they fail, they can still be curious about the lessons they learned. It encourages flexibility, and gives them the resilience to deal with uncertainty. It can turn everyday chores into adventures, and even give them the freedom to explore the big questions in life without fear (like who are we, what happens next, how can I bring peace, can I dare to be happier?)
That’s what I would give a child, if I had a magic wand. What would YOU give them?
A short parable showing that making a choice is better than making no choice..
Some students asked the great teacher, “How do we become wise?”
The great teacher replied, “by making good choices.”
“How can we be sure we are making good choices,” they asked.
“Experience will teach you that.”
The students then asked, “how do we get this experience?”
“By making bad choices.”
I’m a fan of Marianne Williamson – her books have inspired me over the past 16 years or so. A friend recently told me about how she walked out on to the stage after the Paris shootings, and said that we needed to send love out to the city – and that included the terrorists. She had misread many in the the audience.
But then she wasn’t coming from the point of the audience. She wasn’t denying the horror, she was simply coming from her truth. She is a long standing teacher in the Course in Miracles, which teaches that what we believe, we perceive; so since she believes that ultimately love is what matters – what will transform the world – then that’s what she sees, and how she lives. And though I may have been where those in the audience were, I just thought wow, she really lives her truth, and it’s transformed her in the process.
How we think – what we perceive – is how our lives unfold. If love is really what matters to us, we will look for it and find it, and we will be it. What if we lived today, looking at the world from the eyes of love, or the eyes of what we feel is missing from our life – friendship, compassion, kindness? What if that’s all we tried to focus on being and seeing? How would our day change?
Do let me know what you chose, and how you got on…