“One of the most beautiful gifts in the world is the gift of encouragement. When someone encourages you, that person helps you over a threshold you might otherwise never have crossed on your own.” John O’Donohue
I am grateful for knowing some great friends, who give me perspective and the simple joy of belonging. I am especially grateful for my Anam Cara’s. John O’Donohue is an Irish author who wrote a book of the same name, and defined the Anam Cara as, “a person to whom you could reveal the hidden intimacies of your life. This friendship was an act of recognition and belonging. When you had an Anam Cara, your friendship cut across all convention and category. You were joined in an ancient and eternal way with the friend of your soul.”
This too has been my experience – and one of them has just given me one if the most special gifts I’ve ever had. Though I chose her gift with thought and care, as my kids said, “Diane 1, Mum Nil.”
It started with a key ring called “The World According To Caroline” – in itself significant. I’m called Caroline but long ago, my mum shortened it to Carol, and won’t call me anything else. Nor will anyone who knew me prior to 1999, the year I decided to stand up for my life. I love my name, Caroline; it’s who I am now – and Diane knows about this struggle to be me.
The gifts were all wrapped in love and labelled in the order I had to open them. Only after I opened them and then read the details in the keyring did I realise that and she had read the “Links To Your Name,” and had given me one of each. That’s when I sat humbled and started to cry at such an amazing gift of love.
She gave me:
Fragrance: Mint – and I got a healthy dark chocolate mint bar
Plant: Fern – I got a scroll with a fern on it, that said that, “like the fern, we grow and flourish if we unfurl toward light or truth. The more we unfurl, the more the tendrils of our true nature begin to show as we loosen, surrender and soften, releasing and opening as we let go of old stories…”
Flower: Dahlia – I got a paper cup cake holder with dahlia’s on it as a reminder to keep baking (which I last did in 1998)
Tree: Elm. Now Diane could not know that I once lived in a house called ElmValej, but what she did know is that I’ve been learning to nurture myself and avoid overwhelm. She gave me the Bach Flower remedy Elm, which helps me do just that ..
Animal: Reindeer, so I got a Christmas ornament and a decoration for my tree. Yet a deer is also significant as we both attended a storytelling event where we found our power animal – and found exactly the same one. A deer…
Metal: Titanium – she emailed me David Guetta’s Titanium (one of my favourite tracks of 2012)
Hue: Turquoise – I got a beautiful Turquoise crystal
Day of the Month: 22, which happens to be my husband’s birthday, but it was the day she arranged to have my present delivered..
Number 41: it was all organised by Diane, who is 41
And last, but very much by no mean last, Gemstone: Sapphire – and inside a trinket box with angels wings and love on it was a turquoise pendant which had been precious to her mum but which she wanted to pass to me..
Gifts wrapped in love indeed. Wow!