I love Bridge Over Troubled Water. It’s one of my Desert Island Discs, a reminder when times are tough that there will be someone who will lovingly support you. I am beyond grateful for the people in my life who have been my bridge over troubled water, because we DO get weary and sometimes the water IS troubled, dark and foreboding.
When you’re weary
When tears are in your eyes
I will dry them all
I’m on your side
When times get rough
And friends just can’t be found
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down
A Course in Miracles says, “You are not really capable of being tired, but you are capable of wearying yourself.” I totally get this. Weariness can come via hard work or lack of sleep but often it comes from our thinking and then our actions.
We get worn out, believing the “world is on our shoulders,” often because we believe we are super heroes. We have to save the world – as well as be brilliant at our work, keep the house perfect, bring up impeccably genius children, keep ourselves fit, be beautiful, keep a full social calendar, be the best sibling/child and/or partner,be the perfect hostess and have an impact on our neighbourhood, don’t we?
Don’t we? At one level we know this isn’t possible – on another level we keep doing it and then wonder why we might feel exhausted. We think we are Super Heroes with shiny capes and believe our own story that we need to save the world and no-one else can help us do it. We don’t see our crooked halos and often don’t realise we are wearying ourselves through such ridiculous beliefs and impossible schedules until it’s too late and we crash and burn. (yes, I do love Top Gun!)
We weary ourselves by expecting too much of ourselves – and others, but anything that sucks energy wearies us. It will be external factors like the energy vampires in our lives who keep us down or are persistently negative – and it will be internal factors like any less than totally positive thinking and behaviours.
Our time and energy are limited resources, yet too often we waste them in the wearying effort of living in fear/worry (about the past/future) OR when we use our limited precious energy in living a life behind masks, when we hold on to resentment or when we judge others. We are more than capable of wearying ourselves like that; or at least I am.
When I’m weary, feeling down, when tears are in my eyes, I have my Soul friends. Friends who are good for my soul & are not afraid to ask me hard questions – who are my bridge over troubled water. They remind me to be present, to “let it go” or to be gentle on myself and others. They straighten my halo and show me it’s actually a tiara, sometimes over teas and coffees, sometimes over cocktails. By helping me change my attitude, they restore my weary heart and remind again to protect it.
I’m blessed to have such loving support. Love is all around me.
I am loved, inspired, nurtured and encouraged.
Love is all around me.