What to do when you’re feeling stuck…

Some people say that being stuck or feeling blocked or confused is a terrible thing to experience.  But what if you weren’t really ever stuck, blocked or confused?  What if your current place is right where you are meant to be, and it’s just that you can’t see what is going on underneath the “stuckness?”

I’m naturally very curious.  There are so many things I could be interested in, it’s been hard to focus on the ones that might really matter to me and that sit with my overall goal to “use my words to empower, heal and encourage happiness.”  Yet without this focus, there isn’t power and there’s not much impact. 

Sometimes life just seems to take over; it rarely does happen like that, as more often than not, what is happening now is due to choices we made yesterday, last week or a lifetime ago. But when it seems to be like that, and you face overwhelm and just don’t know what to do, it’s an awful place – and I was there in the first weeks of May when I needed to make a lot of choices about next steps given I only have so much time and energy.

At times like these, I am fortunate to have a group of women around me that I can turn to for advice.  Some of them are Wild Women – and Jane Talbot is one.  I met Jane in 2006 when she trained me as an NLP Practitioner. I was in awe of her intellect – this woman has more degrees than I can remember, has a photographic memory and is even more curious about life than me.  Since then she’s become a dear friend,and I marvel at her resilience and generosity of heart.  She’s moved to Northern Ireland in another adventure – and surprisingly, she’s taken up gardening; and like so many things in life, it proved to be a very useful metaphor for me.  Today’s guest post is from Jane, sent to me at the time when I was particularly “stuck,” knowing I had a lot of things I could do, but how on earth did I make the choice.  I couldn’t see what to DO next, and it was a reminder just “to BE.”

I am busy in the greenhouse just now…planting seeds…The brilliant thing about a seed is that it knows how to grow. ou need to prepare the ground… use the best soil… feed the seed in the right way to start with.. and then just let it grow.  It will do it all by itself…usually when you are not looking!
Maybe it’s worth not looking for a while.  Over-cultivation can be as damaging as under-cultication. When a plant has “grown hard,”it uses up all the nutrients in the soil – and no matter what you plant.. not much will grow.  There’s nothing to feed it or let it take root. So then, what you have to do – before you grow anything else – is fertilise the soil,grow something like clover to fix nitrogen in the soil,so that the next crop can grow fully..
If you are considering growing a new crop.. or even the same crop.. or a mix of crops… it’s always best to grow clover first if the soil has been heavily cultivated in the recent past.  Pretty much anything can grow when you’ve let the soil recover and fed it with something that is easy and gives back to the soil rather than takes.

And..here’s the briliant thing.. sometimes if you leave the soil, you’ll notice that the wind has blown new seeds into the soil… and all sorts of unexpected things pop up while the clover is doing its work…

And as I relaxed and let the clover do it’s work, what I couldn’t see was that underneath the “stuckness” were lots of goodies just waiting to grow.  I’m not even sure what some of them might grow into yet, but so far, it’s all looking healthy! 

You’ll find more information about Jane here, at:

http://www.millburntherapy.org/what-we-offer/hypnotherapy.html(her Coleraine practice)

http://causewaycabas.wordpress.com (her new blog)

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